Parenting means living in a constant stream of questions. “Why is the sky blue?” “Why do we need socks?” “Why can’t I have candy for breakfast?” (To be fair, an excellent question.) If you’ve ever faced an inquisitive toddler, you know how quickly those ‘whys’ can pile up. But in my house, there’s a rule: no matter how tired I am—or how ridiculous the question may seem—I always answer.
Why? Because every “why” is a gateway to curiosity, critical thinking, and learning. And because of something I learned while working at Apple: the phrase “I don’t know, let’s find out.”
Lessons from Apple and Endless Toddler Questions
At Apple, one of the biggest takeaways wasn’t just about technology or customer service. It was the power of admitting when you don’t know something—and using that moment as a starting point for discovery. I brought that philosophy home, and it’s become a cornerstone of how I parent. When Yael asks me a tough question (like why some birds don’t fly), my response is, “I don’t know, let’s find out.” We grab a book, hop online, or just start brainstorming together.
This simple shift teaches her that not knowing isn’t a failure—it’s an invitation to explore. That curiosity? It’s like a muscle. The more she exercises it, the stronger it gets. And I’m her first personal trainer in this gym of endless questions.
Flipping the Script: “Because” Isn’t an Answer
One of my favorite strategies for handling Yael’s avalanche of “whys” is flipping the question back on her. I’ll ask, “What do you think?” or “Why do you think that happens?” At first, this was just a way to buy myself time when I had no idea what to say. But over time, it’s become something bigger: a way to show her that because isn’t the end of the story—it’s the beginning.
Apparently, it stuck. One day, Mazi (my wife) tried to wrap up one of Yael’s spiraling questions with a casual “because.” Yael shot back, “Mommy, that’s not an answer. That’s the beginning of an answer.” I mean, come on—that’s parenting gold.
Moments like that remind me why I lean into these questions, even when I’m running on fumes. When I teach her that answers aren’t just handed to you, but something you actively seek, I’m helping her build a mindset she can carry through life.
Curiosity is Exhausting—But Totally Worth It
Let’s be real: there are times when answering “why” for the hundredth time before breakfast makes me want to run out the door. Between raising two kids (shoutout to my newborn, Diana, for those sleepless nights) and managing work, the mental energy it takes to keep up with Yael’s questions can be… a lot.
But here’s the thing: fostering curiosity is one of the best gifts we can give our kids. Studies show that curious children grow into better problem solvers, stronger communicators, and more empathetic adults. And while I may not always have the patience in the moment, I remind myself: every question she asks is shaping her future.
Tips for Tackling the Toddler Inquisition
If you’re living in the world of endless “whys,” here’s what works for me:
- Use “I Don’t Know, Let’s Find Out”: It’s okay not to have all the answers. Show them how to research and problem-solve together.
- Flip the Question: When you ask them what they think, it encourages creativity—and gives you a breather.
- Set Limits (Gently): Sometimes, a quick, “Let’s save that one for later” can help manage the flow without shutting them down.
- Keep Answers Simple: You don’t need a dissertation on aerodynamics to explain why planes fly. Give them just enough to spark their curiosity.
Raising Problem Solvers, One “Why” at a Time
As someone who balances fatherhood, work at DoorLoop, and my branding business, I’ve realized that answering “why” isn’t just about parenting—it’s about leadership. Whether at home or in business, the willingness to ask questions, admit you don’t know, and dig for answers is a superpower. It’s what drives innovation, builds trust, and keeps us connected.
So yeah, it’s exhausting to answer every “why.” But I’ll keep doing it, because every question is a chance to teach my kids that learning never stops—and that because is just the beginning.
Have a favorite “why” moment with your kids? Drop it in the comments—I’d love to hear how you’re fostering curiosity in your home!
